It is an undeniable fact that there are only very few things in life more attractive in our fellow human than self-confidence.
Seeing a person with self-confidence is enough in itself to attract us to them, to make us want to work with them, and more often than not in life the line between success and failure is decided by the amount of confidence we exude and with which we approach certain problems or complications.
Hell some might even shy away from the problem altogether, but the ones who face it, and face it with utmost confidence in themselves, are the ones who triumph.
And that’s only the tip of the iceberg of what can be achieved with just a little self-confidence.
So it obviously goes without saying that this “self-confidence” thing is not a bad weapon to have in our arsenals.
Yet many struggle to find it within them. It’s alright, though. Lack of self confidence is by far not an inherent deficiency, merely a product of myriad of little things congealed towards that effect.
So for those in search of fail proof methods to increase and build self confidence, I’m glad to tell you that you’re at the right place. Prepared here below are 6 encompassing life hacks you can tap into to increase your self confidence a million fold.
They’re not all easy, of course, but with a little work and much discipline they’re definitely achievable. So without further ado I present to you five hacks to skyrocket your self confidence in all areas.
1. Resolve the Past
The first thing on our list of hacks to skyrocket self confidence is understanding our relationship with the past, or more pertinently, our relationships from the past.
Because more often than not this is one of the things that causes us to lose confidence in our present self.
Lack of self confidence is most always a product of past events, an example of which might be, perhaps, having being in unhealthy relationships with people who did not show much belief in our abilities when it was needed most.
Or most commonly a product of past failures that we’ve allowed to define who we are.
Finding out and realizing these past events/relationships and then having it at the back of our minds that they do NOT define who we are, is the first step to building self confidence.
We all make mistakes. That is a given. What matters most, however, and what differentiates success from failure, is our response to these mistakes!
2. Find Your Strengths and Reinforce Them
The second fail proof method of building self confidence is finding out what you’re really good at and building on it!
Everybody has something that they do better than the person next door. And as an inevitable corollary, everybody has something that they suck at.
The only difference is that the people with self confidence focus on what they’re good at, while the other class of people focus on what they’re bad at.
Choose to focus on what you’re good at, improve upon it and before you know it you realize how good and special you are and you won’t have to worry about low confidence ever again.
3. Think Positively
This is sort of a continuation of the second step above, because focusing and improving on your strength will be helped greatly by also thinking positively about them.
Bad thoughts only sow doubt, doubt sows weakness, and weakness breeds a vacuum of low self esteem which you may never recover from.
But positive thoughts – positive thoughts sow unexplained courage, which in turn breeds immense self confidence.
For every one of your weakness and self doubt, throw your strength up there at them and reinforce it with a million positive thoughts. Rinse and repeat this for as long you can and before you know it not only are you getting much better at what you’re good at, you’re also getting better at the things you find difficult!
4. Surround yourself with loved ones
As mentioned earlier, surrounding ourselves with negativity is one of the causes of lack in self confidence, and so conversely, it’s a no brainer that surrounding yourselves with positive people; the ones you love and who love you back just as much, is an immense propeller to regaining that lost confidence.
They cheer you on, they inspire you, they help you deal with you negative pent-up emotions and most importantly they focus on your strengths rather than your weaknesses.
5. Push Yourself
The importance of this step can not be overstated. Having resolved past insecurities and having focused on both your innate and acquired strength; having had a million positive encouragement from self and loved ones, the next important step is then to push yourself.
To face that final challenge of putting yourself in those rather uncomfortable situations which you might not or would have not have liked to get into.
Because the truth is without pushing ourselves, we can never grow. It is an unpleasant yet undeniable fact.
You can say it in your mind all you want, and build psychologically all you want, but until you put it in practice by challenging yourself and throwing yourself in real world situations, you can never be certain, and most importantly you can never grow.
6. Fake it Till You Make it
The golden controversial rule of life. All I’ll say is, it works. But only if you put in the work. And that’s the catch.
Faking it and hoping to make it when you truly suck and haven’t made an attempt to better yourself is never going to work. But faking when it when you’ve put in the work and are sure of yourself is not only effective, it is expedient.
Thankfully we have 5 points of work up there to get you ready. So put in the work, put yourself in the situation, convince yourself you got it even when in doubt, and the sky is the limit!
Building a high self confidence comes with an immense number of advantages, in life, love, career and even ordinary day to day relationships. And while it may seem incredibly hard to achieve from scratch, it is by no means impossible.
A dose of positive thoughts, surrounding yourself with love ones, dealing with mistakes maturely, facing unpleasant situations with convictions will all go a long way!
The sky is only the beginning.